Saying goodbye to a beloved pet at home is an intimate, profound experience.
After the moment of passing, some families wish to keep their pet close for a little longer, to say one more goodbye, reflect, or simply adjust to the quiet in the home.
These feelings are completely natural, and spending a little time with your pet before cremation can offer comfort and help you begin to find emotional closure as part of the grieving process.
Just as importantly, this choice does not feel right for everyone, and that is completely okay.
At Sunset Vets, we understand the importance of this time and want to support families in making the decision that feels safest and most compassionate for them, while offering clear guidance to help manage this time gently.
What Happens to the Body After Death (Gentle Guidance on Timing)
Understanding what is normal can reduce anxiety and help you care for your pet with confidence. In most home environments:
· Within 1–3 hours: The body begins to cool. The eyes may remain open. Muscle relaxation can lead to small releases of urine or faeces.
· Within 2–6 hours: Rigor mortis, or muscle stiffening, can begin to develop. Limbs and jaw may feel firmer and less flexible. Gentle, minimal handling is best during this time to avoid strain on stiffened areas.
· Within 6–12 hours: Stiffness becomes more noticeable. The body will feel cooler, and subtle changes to skin or positioning may become visible.
Preparing a Safe Space
- Choose a quiet, private room: Select a space where your family can spend time together without interruption. This allows you to sit, reflect, and say your goodbyes in peace.
- Use absorbent bedding: Soft blankets, towels, or pet pads underneath your pet absorb natural fluids and make cleanup easier. Layering multiple towels provides additional comfort and security.
- Maintain a cool, calm environment: A slightly cool room slows body changes and helps the body remain more comfortable to touch. Avoid overly warm or humid conditions.
- Create a serene atmosphere: Dim the lights, play soft music if desired, and surround your pet with items that hold special meaning, such as toys or personal mementos.
Emotional Guidance
- Take your time: There is no “right” length of time. Some families feel comforted by a few hours, others by a whole night.
- Breathe and be present: Your calm presence is what matters most. Soft words, gentle strokes, and quiet reflection provide comfort.
- Allow grief to flow: Tears, talking, or simply sitting in silence are all part of processing your loss. This is a natural and important step.
Next Steps
When you feel ready, you may wish to arrange transport or cremation through your chosen provider. Sunset Vets works with trusted partners who ensure pets are treated with dignity and care. We can guide you through these next steps and, if you wish, organise arrangements on your behalf to make the process as gentle and simple as possible during this emotional time.
A Gentle Reminder
Keeping your pet close after saying goodbye is a deeply personal choice. It is a final act of love and care, allowing you to process your loss in your own time. There is no wrong way to navigate these first hours, the important part is being gentle, safe, and compassionate, both with your pet and yourself.
At Sunset Vets, we are here to support you through every stage of this journey, helping ensure that every farewell honours the life your pet lived and the love you shared.
If you would like support during this time or guidance on aftercare options, visit sunsetvets.com.au.
